We’ve all been in an uncomfortable situation where tension is thick and emotions run high. Maybe it’s a disagreement with your spouse over the budget or how to discipline your children. Maybe your co-worker has taken credit for your work again. It could be a simple misunderstanding with a friend that escalates into something more dramatic.
“Whose side are you on anyway?” your friend asks accusingly.
Whose side are you on? You wonder as your spouse walks out in a huff.
It’s not a bad question. In the middle of disagreements my dad would often remind me that we are on the same team. But if we are really honest, most of the time we are on our own side.
“Whose side are you on?”
“My side! The right side!” We want to scream. But we don’t—at least most of the time. But even if we’re not saying it, we’re thinking it. We are wondering why the other person can’t see it from our point of view. Surely they have to realize how wrong they really are!
I’m beginning to recognize that I have only been considering two sides:
Mine and Yours.
Or, Mine and the Wrong Side.
Ok, full disclosure: Mine and the Really Wrong Side
But where is God in the midst of this battle of “I’m right and you’re wrong.”
Lysa TerKeurst writes about this very thing in her book Unglued:
“When faced with a situation out of our control, we need to ask, ‘Whose side am I on?’ Will our response reflect that we are on God’s side or not? If we determine that, no matter what, we’re on God’s side, it settles the trust issue in our hearts. And if we ground ourselves in the reality that we trust God, we can face circumstances that out of control without acting out of control. We can’t always fix our circumstances, but we can fix our minds on God.”
Trust. Isn’t that the real issue?
I’m not suggestion that when you choose to be on God’s side that it automatically makes you right—although that would be nice. The key is that our response should reflect our trust in God. Trusting God comes with an amazing peace that enables us to be less attached to our side and more attached to God transforming our character.
Please know that I speak from experience as someone who has always LOVED to be right. But when life spins out of control I’m beginning to feel a lot less attached to my rights, my side and my opinion. I can trust God with it all.
You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you! (Isaiah 26:3 NLT)
Have you settled the trust issue in your heart?