This Father’s Day I was surrounded by four fantastic fathers: My dad, my husband, my brother, and my brother in law. Each father is unique in personality and parenting style, but these men are equally dedicated to loving their kids. Having a wealth of information at my disposal I asked them to offer up some parenting advice for us this Father’s Day.
From My Dad, Wayne Sommers
42 Years of Parenting Experience
- Be a good listener.
- Don’t jump to conclusions.
- You’ll learn by making mistakes.
- Being present for your kids is invaluable.
- Tell the truth.
- Be willing to stand up for your kids, especially when they can’t do it for themselves.
- Be consistently affectionate.
- Teach God’s Word through the circumstances of life, not just platitudes.
- Live out your faith, so that they will see through the good and bad times.
- Don’t withhold affection during discipline.
- Integrity is taught when you think your kids aren’t watching, but they’re always watching.
- Foster closeness, by talking to them on their level about things they’re interested in.
- Don’t discipline out of anger.
- Ask them this honest question and listen to the answer: How am I doing as your dad?
- Don’t be afraid of conflict. No conflict, no closeness.
From My Husband, Michael Howard
17 Years of Parenting Experience
- Learn who your kids are as individuals. There’s no one size fits all parenting.
- Learn how to listen. Not every situation needs advice.
From My Brother in Law, Matt Garner
13 Years of Parenting Experience
- Love their mother the most.
- Their feelings are valid, even if they aren’t true.
From My Brother, Derek Sommers
11 Years of Parenting Experience
- Appreciate each stage of development.
- Don’t say: “What’s wrong with you?” when your kids misbehave. Kids are learning and developing, don’t assign a negative identity to them.
What advice would you add to the list?