It’s always been our family joke that we’re saving for counseling instead of college. But the more life I’ve lived, the less of a joke it’s become. Despite the stigma, I will always rally in favor of counseling. It has been one of the best investments Michael and I have made in our marriage, in our family and in our lives individually.
There isn’t a week that goes by that I don’t receive a phone call, an email or a text from someone in a desperate situation. Life is hard, messy and complicated. We are meant to live life in community, but we are more often trying to go it alone. Our circumstances usually hit crisis levels before we will seek help. But what would happen if we knew some of the signs, and reached out before the emergency?
Top 10 Signs You Should Seek Counseling
- You’ve stopped doing the things you love.
- Your close relationships are tense and strained.
- Addiction (drinking, drugs, shopping, gambling, pornography).
- You’ve suffered a trauma (like a death in the family, a miscarriage, or abuse) and you can’t seem to get back on your feet again.
- You are overcome by your emotions (like anger, grief, sadness or anxiety) or find yourself crying easily.
- You are stuck in patterns that are causing damage to your relationships.
- You are making choices that are holding you back from your goals but you’re not sure how to make the changes you desire.
- You have an upset stomach, headaches, or general illnesses that has no underlying cause.
- People are frequently asking you if you are okay.
- Changes in your sleeping pattern (having trouble sleeping or sleeping too much).
The benefits to counseling are much the same as eating right and exercise—a strategy in an overall health plan. The longer you wait to get the help, the longer it can take to work through the problems. Seeking counseling doesn’t mean you will discover a mental illness but it does mean you are on the road to better mental health.
Insight from Proverbs:
Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success. Proverbs 15:22 (NLT)
The wise are glad to be instructed… Proverbs 10:8 (NLT)
A wise person is hungry for knowledge…Proverbs 15:14a (NLT)
Those who listen to instruction will prosper… Proverbs 16:20 (NLT)
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